How to Tease To Get Her Attracted

Four Types of Comments in “Verbal Game”

The speaker distinguishes between teasing and direct insults, describing four kinds of comments:

• Insults: Overtly mean remarks, such as calling someone ugly or stupid. The speaker advises avoiding them because they can come across as rude, reactive, and poorly calibrated.

• Push-pulls: Comments that combine a positive emotional cue with a negative one. Examples include “It’s so annoying how cute you are” and “I thought I loved you until you said that.” The speaker says these create an emotional back-and-forth and can show interest without seeming overly eager.

• Disqualifiers: Negative statements without a positive counterbalance, focused on whether the two people would get along or whether a relationship would work. The speaker describes them as more direct and impactful than push-pulls, but also riskier.

• Negs: Backhanded or “negative” compliments that may prompt insecurity while still being phrased as praise. Examples include noticing that someone blinks a lot or complimenting their sweater while joking that it brings back the ’80s. The speaker says a neg should not be an overt insult and should seem unintentional.

Overall Approach

The speaker presents these techniques as ways to create uncertainty, encourage someone to seek approval, and maintain sexual tension. He emphasizes that teasing should remain polite and distinguishable from genuinely insulting remarks.

Speaker/product mentioned: Todd V; Verbal Game Academy.