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FOMO - A Session by Ranjan Banerjee

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key themes: What “FOMO” is and why it harms wellbeing/productivity

  • FOMO = fear of missing out on opportunities, even when you don’t fully have the fit/skill.
  • It’s intensified by constant social comparison:
    • What used to happen occasionally within family contexts now happens every minute through Facebook/Instagram.
  • Social media often shows filtered “best self” lives, which distorts your sense of reality and increases insecurity.
  • A deeper driver is the belief that life is a zero-sum game (your success is someone else’s loss), fueling resentment and anxiety.

Wellness & self-care strategies (emotional regulation through mindset)

  • Reduce social comparison
    • Remind yourself: what you see online is not the full reality.
  • Shift from “best relative to others” → “best self”
    • The idea: “The highest form of competition is competition with the self.”
    • Your job is to discover and build your potential, not out-rank others.
  • Be comfortable being the person who doesn’t know
    • Practice self-compassion through learning by building the courage to say “I don’t get it” without shame.
    • This supports psychological safety and learning.
  • Use feedback instead of labels
    • Treat outcomes as feedback, not permanent verdicts like “success” or “failure.”
  • Adopt a growth mindset
    • Ability is a muscle that grows with challenge, stretch, reflection, and trying even when you may fail.

Productivity & performance methods (how to act differently)

1) Use process over outcomes

  • Control effort/process, not outcome
    • Outcomes may be influenced by many factors, so focus on controllables:
      • effort
      • learning
      • skill-building
      • effort quality
    • This increases your odds of success without letting results hijack self-esteem.
  • Helps prevent shortcuts/cheating driven by outcome panic.

2) Replace FOMO with structured learning and better choice-making

  • Only add opportunities if they match your development goals.
  • When deciding what to do (e.g., internships/projects), use a simple acceptance checklist:
    • Reason 1: fits your development goals
    • Reason 2: helps your CV
    • Reason 3: keeps a real passion/meaning
  • Avoid taking something just because others are doing it—or because you fear missing it.

3) Benchmarking instead of comparison as competition

  • Use comparison only for:
    • benchmarking & learning
  • Avoid comparison that turns into:
    • “I’m losing out” (relative worth) → confidence drops → burnout.

4) Pick a small number of experiments; don’t overcommit

  • If you experiment, keep it focused:
    • Experiment with 1–3 things, not many.
  • Example approach:
    • Early personal strengths/weakness analysis
    • Choose:
      • 2 strengths to take toward excellence
      • 1 weakness to overcome
      • 1 non-work passion to keep alive

Concrete learning habits emphasized

  • Ask questions when you don’t understand
    • Raising your hand signals you’re learning and prevents “losing the plot.”
  • Understand fundamentals
    • Don’t coast by “looking cool”—it creates long-term hollowness and gaps.
  • Maintain simple communication
    • Don’t hide behind jargon; communicate clearly to ensure understanding.

Creativity/skill expansion: “You can get reasonably good at anything”

  • The video uses drawing instruction (Betty Edwards-style ideas) to demonstrate that talent myths block learning.
  • Key instruction takeaway:
    • Practice with an open mind + just go for it
    • Break tasks into repeatable steps/variations.
  • Main message:
    • Many “talent limits” are belief limits shaped by early conditioning.

Tools & mindset checklist mentioned (actionable takeaways)

  • Growth mindset: treat outcomes as feedback; learn through challenge.
  • Process focus: control effort/process to improve success likelihood.
  • Courage to be confused: ask “I don’t get it.”
  • Benchmark, don’t rank: compare only to learn.
  • Structured self-assessment early: strengths, weaknesses, and a non-work passion.
  • Sleep target (mentioned): set and adhere to it.
  • Use mentors: cultivate mentorship/support.
  • Don’t leave a job for money alone (as stated).
  • You are not alone: ask for help.

Presenters or sources (as mentioned)

  • Ranjan Banerjee (presenter)
  • Harari (Yuval Noah Harari)
  • Darwin (mentioned in context of survival/fitness)
  • Carol Dweck (growth mindset source implied)
  • Betty Edwards (drawing instruction; “The Right Side of the Brain” style reference)
  • Simon (referenced in a story)
  • Dr. Mike Jordan (chair of the Talk group; mentioned via email/story)
  • Ted Talk (sleep reference mentioned generally)
  • Amir Khan (referenced in one question/comment)
  • GB Thomas (calculus textbook mentioned)
  • Harvard Business School / “Harbus” (origin story mentioned)
  • Facebook / Instagram / Eiffel Tower (social platforms referenced as comparison triggers)
  • MS Dhoni (used as a process-focused example)
  • Matthew (mentioned in context of Polgar; exact reference context unclear)
  • Polgar / Polgar family (chess example mentioned)
  • NASA (percentage figure referenced for creativity study)
  • Talk (charity referenced for stroke recovery / aphasia group)
  • Sultans of Swing (music example used in guitar practice story)

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