Your Future Spouse is Closer Than You Think.....DO THIS NOW!

Overview

T and J, a married couple who identify as Jill and Terence of A God-Ordained Union, speak to single people who hope to marry and feel that a future spouse may be approaching.

Jill shares that she sensed a change before meeting Terence. After seeing an old dating-site profile, she found him on Facebook, and they eventually married when she was in her early 50s. They compare the feeling of anticipation to a plane preparing to land: peaceful, even when the destination is not yet visible.

Their central advice is to stay spiritually grounded and prepare without rushing or assuming that every new romantic prospect is “the one.”

Seven Reminders for the Waiting Season

1. Pray for discernment, not just confirmation. Ask God for guidance about what to do, what to notice, and whether to wait or take action. The hosts recommend focusing on prayer and Scripture rather than letting social media or others’ opinions steer your decisions.

2. Believe without forcing an outcome. Don’t assume that the next person you meet must be your future spouse, or overlook red flags because you feel marriage is near. The hosts cite Psalm 37:7 and 2 Corinthians 5:7 in support of patience and faith.

3. Prepare to steward a relationship well. Consider whether you’re ready to nurture a relationship responsibly. Let it develop through its stages rather than rushing toward marriage; the hosts compare this to allowing a baby to grow at its own pace.

4. Remain faithful to what you already have. Continue caring for existing friendships and responsibilities while you wait. Those relationships can still matter, though the hosts also advise discretion about what you share. They reference Luke 16:10.

5. Guard your heart against fear, impatience, and idolatry. Stay grounded and avoid becoming prideful, envious, overly emotional, or fixated on a relationship. The hosts cite Proverbs 4:23.

6. Give thanks throughout the process. Practice gratitude for what has already happened and for the personal growth that may be preparing you for the future, rather than responding with anxiety or resentment.

7. Look for confirmation through God’s Word, wisdom, and the person’s character. The hosts encourage looking for qualities such as love and peace. A prospect who brings conflict, hatred, or persistent disruption may not be a good match, even if they seem to fit the ideal you imagined.

Discernment and Relationships

The hosts use the biblical story of Ishmael and Isaac to describe a possible “counterfeit” relationship: one that may seem compelling but is not the right fit.

Jill shares that she declined a colleague’s invitations despite enjoying their conversations. She says he was not a bad person; he simply was not her person.

People, Places, and Resources

• People and organization: Jill and Terence; A God-Ordained Union
• Locations: Raleigh and Durham, North Carolina, where Jill says she received a prophecy; Charlotte, mentioned in connection with a Panthers game invitation; and Washington, D.C., referenced in an anecdote about a rough airplane landing
• Resources: eHarmony, promoted as a dating service; the couple’s ebook, Prepared, Positioned, & Promised