🔴 How To Make Her Submit To You

Summary and context

This document summarizes claims and advice presented in a video promoting the Shogun Method (Derek Rake). The material is explicitly controversial. The summary below reports the video’s positions and instructions, not factual endorsement or verification.

Core claim

• The video argues that long-term committed romantic relationships require male leadership and female submission. Submission is presented as necessary both for relationship longevity and for women’s psychological well‑being (as asserted by the presenter).

“If you need to set the rules, you don’t have one.” (Quoted from the video’s presentation on genuine submissiveness.)

Main points and advice

Should a woman submit?

• The video’s position: yes — if a man wants a long-term committed relationship, the woman must willingly submit to his leadership; otherwise the relationship should end.
• Submission is framed as necessary for the man to lead and for the woman’s happiness.

What submission means

• Defined as a woman following her partner’s lead by free will, rooted in authentic respect for him.
• The presenter claims that women “love only from respect” (i.e., respect precedes love).

Characteristics of a submissive girlfriend (as listed in the video)

• Lets her boyfriend decide important matters.
• Admires his unique abilities and talents.
• Understands and supports his life mission and goals.
• Is emotionally exclusive (only has eyes for him).
• If she disagrees, she does not show it publicly.
• Does not talk behind his back; defends his honor when he’s absent.
• Takes interest in his hobbies; tries things to make him happy.
• Dresses modestly (doesn’t dress too revealingly).
• Is polite and does not raise her voice in his presence.
• The presenter emphasizes you cannot fake respect; if you must ask whether she’s submissive, she isn’t.

Rules for a submissive girlfriend

• The video claims genuine submissiveness should not require explicit rules or imposed controls; it must arise from earned respect. The phrase used is: “If you need to set the rules, you don’t have one.”

How to be / act dominant (qualities of a dominant man, per the video)

• Makes decisions on important matters.
• Has unique abilities women admire.
• Pursues a life mission and gains her support.
• Creates exclusivity and prevents public displays of disagreement.
• Projects that he has options; the woman may feel anxious about displeasing him.
• Is defended by her when he is absent; she does not speak behind his back.
• Inspires her to take interest in his interests and try things to please him.
• The presenter stresses that dominance should be authentic, not merely acted.

Psychology of female submission (video’s stance)

• Claims healthy relationships are not equal; they should exhibit sexual polarity:
  • Masculine = dominant
  • Feminine = submissive
• These roles are presented as natural polarity rather than a statement of hierarchical superiority.

Difference between submission and love

• Submission is described as distinct from love but linked to it: the presenter asserts women cannot love without submitting, and that love grows from respect/submission.

Making a girlfriend submissive in bed

• “The body follows the mind”: if she’s mentally submissive during the day, she will be submissive sexually without special tricks.
• Warning: do not attempt drastic changes if you are not already dominant; the advice is to play the long game and avoid triggering alarm signals.
• Recommended method: the IRAE Model — described as a four‑step, hypnotic process designed to produce submission. Viewers are directed to download a free 34‑page digital book at iraemodel.com for details on the I, R, A, E steps.

Caveats noted in the video

• The presenter acknowledges the topic is controversial and frames the material as choice‑based, claiming it is not for everyone while repeatedly asserting the model as truth.
• The advice repeatedly emphasizes “earn respect” rather than enforcing rules, yet the presentation also describes control‑oriented dynamics (including fear/anxiety underlying compliance).

Notable speakers, brands, products, and links

• Presenter / program: Derek Rake; Shogun Method.
• Method promoted: IRAE Model (four‑step model).
• Resource promoted: iraemodel.com — free 34‑page digital book (presented as a guide to producing submission).