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Don't Take the Black Pill - Andrew Kelley | SSW 2026
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Overview
The talk is organized around four main parts—“the pill,” “software should work,” “agency,” and “faith”—and argues that modern tech culture often breeds despair and coercive systems, but that people can recover agency by practicing better values, technical ethics, and collective creation.
1) “Don’t take the black pill”: origins, harms, and an alternative
The speaker frames the discussion with The Matrix metaphor of choosing uncomfortable truth (red pill) versus comfort (blue pill), noting that phrases like “red-pilled” and “based” spread far beyond the original movie’s audience.
They explain the “black pill” as a term from incel culture (involuntary + celibate), describing an online “feedback cycle”:
- Productive participants tend to improve, leave, and stop “commiserating.”
- What remains becomes increasingly dominated by hopeless, antisocial nihilism.
- This evolves into a “give up, the game is rigged” mindset.
The talk characterizes the black pill as nihilism + depression + anger, warning that the worst outcomes include:
- Self-harm
- Suicide
- School shootings
Personal testimony and the corrective insight
The speaker describes nearly spiraling into despair when entering dating as a young man. They claim what helped them was exposure to pickup-artist ideas—while stressing those ideas can also be toxic.
The key corrective idea (as relayed from a pickup artist) is to stop fixating on outcomes and instead build generalized attractiveness:
- Show genuine care
- Listen
- Make people want to spend time with you
- Create conditions where romance can happen naturally
The broader message: even if people are exposed to bad ideas, good ideas can still redirect them.
2) A parallel “black pill” dynamic in society: radicalized and coercive incentives
The speaker links the black pill pattern to Cory Doctorow’s short story “Radicalized” (2019):
- A forum keeps people trapped in rage and teaches that “it was never ever going to get better.”
- Those who recover leave due to the community’s rage culture.
- Those who remain deepen their anger.
They connect fiction to reality via a news reference: the shooting of UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson (noted as “5 years after” the story).
Core claim: online systems (forums, communities) can filter for the most despairing members, entrenching hopelessness and anger.
3) “Software should work”: why it often doesn’t, and how people cope
The talk shifts to a conference theme: software conferences emphasize that software “should work.” The speaker argues this avoids the deeper meta question: why software fails.
They note declining robustness/performance relative to hardware improvements. They then ask for confirmation that, when developers try to improve software at work, management blocks them due to other priorities.
“Benevolent non-compliance” tactics
The speaker describes tactics used when management won’t allow quality work:
- Asking for forgiveness rather than permission
- Secrecy (doing necessary work hidden from decision-makers)
- Misdirection (performing valuable work behind distractions)
- The duck (a story: artists distract producers by adding something obvious so producers remove it—while the real work remains intact)
These are framed as survival strategies under hostile incentives, with a caution that they involve risky gambles (including reprimand or job loss).
4) “Agency”: who controls systems, and the concept of coercionware
The speaker uses the transistor metaphor: tiny signals control large outcomes, and asks who decides what rules get executed.
Software should serve users (not third parties)
A key claim: computers/software should serve the direct user, not third-party interests. Examples include:
- Browser user-agent behavior enabling user autonomy (e.g., ad blocking)
- DRM as hostile because it forces user hardware to serve copyright holders
“Coercionware”: manipulation instead of service
They build toward the concept of “coercionware”—software designed to manipulate rather than serve.
Examples discussed:
- Amazon Mechanical Turk (paying below minimum wage)
- Boss-ware tracking and micromanagement
- Intrusive ads
- Push notifications
- A/B testing prioritizing revenue over empathy, enabling dark patterns
They criticize:
- YouTube’s algorithm for pushing creators toward optimization over integrity (plus “culture/pipeline” effects)
- AI agents on the grounds that if users don’t control the source code, they aren’t truly in control
- Dark patterns, including an anecdote about a flight attendant UI with a nonsensical prompt
Doomscrolling as coercion, not just habit
They argue doomscrolling isn’t merely personal behavior. Facebook-style infinite scroll and engagement optimization are framed as categorically coercive, compared to code executing on the brain.
They cite a Jan 2017 intelligence assessment (Russian interference context) concluding that social media systems can leave users vulnerable to “mind hacking,” and that this vulnerability is still being exploited.
5) “The black pill” as a coping response—and why resignation is dangerous
The speaker argues black-pilled thinking provides temporary relief, analogous to surrender:
- It’s framed as giving up the “magic” of computers to oppression.
They list “black-pilled takes” and reject them, including:
- “Computers were a mistake” (denies human agency)
- Disliking AI but using it anyway as joyless, fear-driven adoption
- Blocking/scraping deterrent “Anubis” as a mixed case:
- The speaker mocks the aesthetic criticism
- Still criticizes added friction for legitimate access
- A personal example of declaring a site “trash now”
- Abandoning free/open-source out of despair that AI companies will scrape everything
- Countered by arguing the real goal is keeping users in control through high-quality open software that forces competition
- Moral fatalism (“if I don’t do it, someone else will”) as ethical erasure
6) “Faith” and restoring moral grounding for technologists
The speaker describes deconversion from Protestant Christianity and the difficulty of building a morality framework without inherited certainty.
They argue technologists accelerate humanity’s trajectory, and technology is morally dependent on human intent and goals.
The Petrov parable (Stanislav Petrov, 1983)
They use Stanislav Petrov (1983) as a faith parable:
- A false missile warning appeared.
- Petrov disobeyed protocol because he suspected it was wrong.
- The story is used to emphasize choosing humanity/hope despite uncertainty—faith in mankind as a risk-bearing decision.
7) “Youth”: optimism, wisdom, and building instead of despair
They feature an artist/musician (Nina Joudaki, “I love my computer”) to highlight lingering wonder in computing despite modern “web on full display” problems like YouTube/Discord.
The speaker contrasts older and younger people:
- Older people may lose something through jadedness.
- Youth:
- Lack the wisdom gained from hardship
- Get targeted by scams and corporate viral marketing
- Take risky bets due to not being scarred yet
- But youth also have uncompromised drive to change the world:
- Optimism
- Willingness to try again
Call to action
The talk ends with a call to action: rather than complaining, people should build something better (not named). The speaker claims you don’t need a million dollars—just a computer, curiosity, and time.
Final exhortation: when feeling black-pilled, remember that people are the ones making computers do what they do, and together they can resist coercionware.
Presenters / contributors
- Andrew Kelley (speaker)
- Cory Doctorow (author of “Radicalized,” discussed)
- Isaac Asimov (referenced; Laws of Robotics)
- Stanislav Petrov (historical figure referenced)
- Nina Joudaki (musician referenced)
- Seth Andrews (narrator of an audio book recommended)
- Vladimir Putin (referenced in the election interference context)
- U.S. intelligence agencies / FBI / CIA / NSA (referenced via a quoted report)
- UnitedHealthcare CEO (mentioned in connection with a shooting news event)