If You Have a Crush, Watch This

Overview

Having a crush can lead to overthinking, imagining a relationship before it exists, and letting someone else’s attention or replies dictate your mood. Much of the stress may come not from the person, but from repeatedly analyzing interactions afterward.

Strategies

• Focus on what you can control. Ask yourself, “Am I being myself around them?” instead of constantly trying to guess whether they like you.
• Get to know the person as they are, rather than becoming attached to an idealized version of them.
• Talk to them directly and be yourself. Decoding every text or searching for signs is unlikely to give you a clear answer.
• Notice when their attention is controlling your mood, and avoid letting one person determine whether you have a good or bad day.
• Accept that some overthinking and daydreaming are normal, while recognizing when they’re keeping you stuck.

Presenter

KyleFr